I don’t know about you but when I get pangs of loneliness I get busy. Like, really busy. Like, so busy that I don’t have to think busy. The other day when a lil twinge of loneliness crept in, I thought, huh, that’s there, that’s interesting, I’m going to stay with this for a bit and see where it takes me.  So instead of running away, I allowed myself to […]

I am the Creator of My Connectedness

  Today I received a gift. I wasn’t expecting it. It took my breath away. I am loved…. But before I got to that last sentence I had a few zaps of: I don’t deserve it. I must seem really pathetic. They think I can’t take care of myself, and I feel shame. I am a failure. This feels way too vulnerable. I didn’t ask for it. I don’t ask […]

Learning to Receive

There Goes That "Box" 2
A client contacted me wishing to change the time of our session from 9:30 am to 10 am on Wednesday. No problem. Wednesday arrives and I’m preparing for my day, shower, dress, eat. At 9:25 I’m thinking, “Great I have 35 minutes, I’ll go down and make a cup of tea and drink it while I put my make up on.” I’m standing in my kitchen waiting for the kettle […]

There Goes That “Box”….

At the beginning of January I “outed” myself publicly on Facebook and Instagram by deciding to stop telling the lie: “Oh, I hardly ever go on Facebook…” The reality is I had so much I hadn’t done in months and I found myself wasting a crazy amount of time in the lie: “this video or article will inspire me or will be good research or will inform my coaching or […]

Pressing Pause on Social Media

Overcoming Meh
I’ve been thinking a lot about ambivalence and how it contributes to overwhelm.  For me, ambivalence sits in the category of “meh” or “don’t really care one way or another”. A google search came up with this definition, “literally being of two minds.” As I examine this through the lens of my life and through working with clients who are going through transition, it struck me how often we sit […]

Overcoming “Meh”

Road to Success
This past weekend I assisted the leadership team at a CTI coach training course.  It was extraordinary to witness the growth of these individuals from my vantage point – that of someone who has gone through the intense process to become a certified coach.  They had so many questions about what was coming next for them; should they go directly into certification, should they do CTI’s Leadership course, should they […]

How to Win at Failing

Polar bear and cub
Recently I experienced a really tough day.  I don’t have many tough days, simply because I choose to look at each day, each experience, as an opportunity for growth and learning.  But this one was tough.  I was really struggling to keep it together.  By the end of the night I could feel myself going down the hole.  As I stood in the bathroom taking my make up off, staring […]

Hold Me Tight

Running away
Recently both my kids came home for a visit.  It was an extraordinary 5 days filled with so much joy for me.  I made the intention that I would try my very best to be present during this time so that I could fully engage with them and not waste a minute of being in their glorious presence.  There were two moments that really stood out in the days we […]

It’s The Little Things – Valuing the Beauty of What ...

Dog hiding
“As children we found ways to protect ourselves from vulnerability, from being hurt, diminished, and disappointed.  We put on armor; we used our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors as weapons; and we learned how to make ourselves scarce, even to disappear.  Now as adults we realize that to live with courage, purpose, and connection – to be the person whom we long to be – we must again be vulnerable.  We […]

I Am Inherently Safe In My Vulnerability

“Don’t let life drive you crazy. You drive that motherf…..; it’s yours. You’re in charge.” – Jennifer Lewis (click name for video) So, WHY do we sit here? I mean, why do we sit down in our life? Why do we have such a hard time getting up out of the chair and taking that first step? What keeps us in that place of being a “passenger”? I think it’s because […]

Get in the Driver’s Seat